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Choosing a life with 0% alcohol in the name of GREATNESS

  Drugs and Alcohol. Most people in todays’ day are familiar with them and are likely to have tried either/or, or both. Since my teenage years I have known alcohol only to well. I was raised in New Zealand.  A small country where it is seen as ‘normal’ to have alcohol as part of your …

What is my life purpose?

Today I answered a bunch of questions for a fellow Amazing Life + Biz Academy Member, for the opportunity to be featured on her blog as part of her Soul-Full Sunday Interviews.  I have just read one of Carries’ blog posts, and it appears we are both Sexual Abuse thrivers.    I use the description …

Oh life you interesting monkey…

Oh life, you are an interesting monkey at times…

Today I share my Vlog about what space I’ve been in, and why it is a necessary part of growth & development…

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

https://youtu.be/Dzg3N7y3plo

With love, always <3

why is my life so hard

What to do when life as you know it changes…

One of my biggest challenges in life so far is one of surrender. Surrendering to what is, as opposed to what I want to be. A lot of the time it is relatively easy.  Surrendering to a rest when I wanted to exercise.  Surrendering to not getting all the housework done when there are other …

If you follow this one step, you’ll have motivation to exercise for LIFE

I don’t like to tell you, the reader, how to live your life. Do this, or do that, and you will get xyz. There are enough ‘GURUs’ and blog sites out there, that will tell you your ‘5 Steps to your dream life’ or ’10 steps to a healthier you’. Your task, if you choose …

That awkward moment when you share what you’re really thinking…

Journaling has been one of the most useful TOOLS I have used over the past 10 years to support me in gaining clarity & understanding through challenging times. In the beginning, it was the one place I could go to be totally unedited, 100% ME… I would write anything I wanted, and express my deepest …

Poo, farts & gluten intolerance…

Poo, farts & Gluten Intolerance… Do you have issues with any of these; + Dealing with any of the line up in the image to your right + Feeling uncomfortable tension inside your gut & intestines – giving you that constant sense of bloat + Being that person at dinners out who has to ensure …

Want to see a preview of me before TRANSFORMATION?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hjg8FoqWiiQ

Today I decided to start my own 30 Day Vlog Challenge

I want to overcome my own judgments of myself

WHY
– share how I live
– gain a greater reach
– practice my speaking
– share my weirdness

INTENTION
– share my knowledge & wisdom
– inspire greater health
– reach people who need what I’m sharing

LET GO
– my judgement of how I look
– needing to be perfect
– my image
– repetitive ‘ya knows’ & ‘ums’

WELCOME IN
– greater speaking clarity
– speak succinctly
– share whats on my mind
– bring out more of my personality
– confidence speaking on video
– allow spirit to speak
– FUN & JOY

Pt 1 – How do I change my thoughts?

Are you aware of all the different thoughts babbling away in your head?

One telling you NOT to eat that block of chocolate.
Another telling you to get out, exercise more.
What about the one that makes you feel guilty whenever you choose something loving or nurturing for yourself.

What are all these thoughts there for?

Most of us go about with these background thoughts playing.  We may, or may not choose to look at them and hear what they’re saying. Most of the time people don’t because, well, who really wants to listen to someone berating us for doing something that we want, or don’t want to do, ex – chocolate/exercise.

The internet is filled with motivational quotes – inspirational images of pretty girls with hot bodies & fashionable vibrant exercise wear – promoting ‘Just do it’. Our Egos are being stimulated to focus on reaching our goals.

Set your goals + chase them + achieve them = happiness!

But does it?

Once you have worked for that hot body like your Instagram feed pics, your green smoothie recipe is on par with your latest Vegan sista’s blog – have you really reached true happiness?

It is really easy to think we have, because we have joined the mass health movement and are following the trend of what is hip & cool.

I’ve been there & I know how good it can feel, and it does feel good.  But how healthy is your mind?  How healthy are your thoughts circling around that styled sexy mop of yours?

How many times did you take selfies before you felt confident enough to share it because it caught your best look?

We have made it into this era where it all looks great from here.  We’re all aware of healthy eating.
Eating locally raised/Organic produce
Eating balanced Protein/Fat/Carb type meals – eating optimally for health & energy requirements
Moving our bodies regularly
Taking selfies or getting friends to take our photo while we pose our mastered Asana.
Taking pics of nature & how we enjoy spending our non working time.

I love it – it IS beautiful to behold, and being aware of this wave of health conscious individuals.

BUT – what I really want to know is, how are your THOUGHTS?

What is going on underneath your tanned athletic complexion, regular Yoga/HIIT classes, green power smoothies, and motivational insta quotes?

Are you keeping up with the trend because it is such?  Or are these actions truly aligned with your inner self?  There is no right or wrong answer, however your answer could dictate the inner workings of your mind.

Back in my 20’s I kept up with the best of them.  Churning through my daily workouts, eating clean and every 3-4 hours.  My routine was near flawless.  I was fit, lean, energetic & felt like I was in control.

My Ego on the other hand, was not.  I was driven to run from the truth of how I really felt about myself.  My subconscious patterning and beliefs.
“you’re not good enough, you’re not pretty enough, you don’t have enough, you’re not lean enough, you’re not doing enough, you’re different to everyone else…”

These very beliefs created the gym junkie persona that I identified with.  I thought that that ‘healthy gym goer WAS who I was!

It was only when I started to acknowledge these inner thoughts that my life started to slowly change.  I didn’t know it at the time, but it wasn’t possible for me to maintain who I was showing up in the world as, and live by these old beliefs that were fueling that behavior.  A new reality was being created. One that would see me feeling good inside AND out.

It may well be possible to live a life where you look good on the outside whilst juggling these self depreciating thoughts, but from memory – I didn’t enjoy it to much, and it is likely that there is polar opposite behaviour playing out because of these very same thoughts.  It might show up in the form of;
– weekend party girl/binge drinker
– binge eater
– bulimic
– workaholic
– promiscuity
– substance addiction
– addiction to being busy
– fear of being on your own
+ a world of other examples.

You may think that one balances the other.

You may also want to change this, but haven’t known how or where to start.

You are tired of this balance.

Tired of the hangovers, the inner guilt trips, the digestive problems and/or disorders…. You have IBS, Constipation, Gluten Intolerant, Celiac, numerable food allergies.

So back to those thoughts of yours.  What do you do?

Start by acknowledging them.  Give them your awareness.

Each time you hear a self depreciating thought – acknowledge it by saying Hello, I Hear You. I Love You then let it go.

Hello.  I Hear You.  I Love You.  Every time you hear anything negative said towards yourself from yourself.  Hello.  I Hear You.  I Love You.

Practice this small significant action for the next few days.

Let me know how you go in the comments below or reach out here.

how do I change my thoughts
2006 – Me just prior to my Body Building Competition
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