Here are 9 hacks to simplify life that I’ve learnt over time. They assist in clearing the clutter of the mind and align more strongly with my Inner Guru. 1 REST When your body is tired, and all you can think about is needing a rest, take a rest! Your body is your vehicle. When …
I had a conversation recently with a colleague, and we acknowledged how good we are both feeling, and that it feels like we have finally pulled through something. I can’t even begin to explain this, it is wonderful! It is extremely wonderful to finally feel SO good!
I feel filled with anticipation for the time ahead. I don’t know exactly what this is, but I can feel it, I have intentions, there are conversations – and if these represent what is coming, it’s going to be amazing! We’re talking road trips, travel, health, empowerment and location independence with love by my side.
But yesterday, I came home from work, and needed to rest, I felt depleted.
When I got to my room, short of falling asleep, I was drawn to meditate. I needed to clear the hectic energy I’d picked up from the store. A few minutes into it, I felt really bleeeehhh, heavy, nauseous, like I was processing something heavy. But because I know how good I’ve been feeling, I KNEW this wasn’t mine to process. I tuned in a little more, and it became apparent I’d picked up some filthy entity along the way, that jumped on for a ride. Bleeeeehhh! I demanded it leave immediately, making way for it to leave with light, an abundance of sage and intention. Filthy Fucker! Excuse me – but it was disgusting! This is not the first time I have cleared an entity from my being, but maybe one of the first that has felt so yuck.
It really reminds me the importance of energetic self care, and how we need to come to know our own energy, so that we don’t allow these entities to jump aboard for free rides.
What this shows up as, is feeling less than our bright shiny selves. It might make us feel bad, uncomfortable, emotional, unmotivated, and not even know why?
So I cleared that filthy fucker and immediately began to express audible sighs of relief as I returned to my feeling good buzz.
So this leads onto the topic of energetic self care, a present one with friends.
It took me a long time to build my energetic self awareness. I had to deal with the discomfort of supermarkets and malls, of demanding customers and students – and multiple uncomfortable conversations. I had to integrate my learnt communication skills to protect myself moment to moment. That coupled with a meditation practice, showed me my inner landscape. It took time. I liken it to running a marathon. You can’t run a marathon without first training for one. You start slowly, building up your cardiovascular fitness and endurance. You have a training programme that supports you in getting there.
The same goes for building your energetic self awareness, you have to start with the first step of training. Haha – I just had an image of Mr Miyagi in Karate Kid.
The most necessary first step I’d suggest is;
Start a Meditation Practice
Come to know your inner landscape – your innermost thoughts and how your energy sits within (and around) your physical body. If it is new to you, perhaps start with 5 minutes per day and build up your consistency.
– Let go of any agenda you may have.
– Give yourself permission to be, and for everything to be perfect as it is.
– Focus on your breath – watch your inhalation and exhalation.
Acknowledge any and all fears or blocks you may have from starting your practice. Anything preconceived ideas about how you think it should be. It will be perfect exactly how it is. We don’t pre-plan a conversation with a friend or colleague beforehand, it unfolds beautiful in the very moment it is happening. Meditation is the same. Just start and breathe.
As you come to know your inner landscape, you know more clearly if something in your energy field feels off. Usually by shear awareness of that energy within your field, you can clear it. By your focus and intention, by your breath. Even if you’re unsure, ask yourself, “is this mine?” It generally leaves if it’s not. Send it off to the light and maybe give yourself a little sage or Palo.
You can watch my video here – for further information.
Start with this practice as the first step.
If you already have a practice, I’d love you to share the benefits you receive.
If you’re looking at starting one, I’d love to hear how you’re enjoying it.
Please feel free to send me a DM, I love hearing from you.
Often it’s the really simple things in life we don’t do that we know we need to.
– Drink more water
– Move our bodies more
– Eat cleaner food
– Drink less alcohol
– Work less, play more…
Nothing new here, but a friendly reminder that starting a Meditation practice each day is something that is absolutely needed in today’s life.
When you clear the trash in your mind to learn your inner landscape, that’s when you can really begin to work consciously with your energy and manifest your external world.
Learning your inner landscape, is like learning a new language, just start, and start with the basics.
Every morning it is natural for me to check in with myself and feel where my energy is at, how it feels.
When it’s super funky and foggy, I put out a tool from my tool kit and apply it to increase my good feels.
This one is from an awesome man you may know – Wim Hof.
I follow my bodies lead and allow whatever I need to move through me;
– Emotional Release
– Sound Release
– Physical Movements
You know when you wake up in the morning (feeling like P Diddy), and you’re present to some funk. Not the dance kind, but the energetic kind.
Sometimes you sit with it, sometimes you can move it.
In this video I share a little of my funk and remind you how you can simply ask it what it needs. Simple right? Ya – I thought so too.
Here I share a super simple tool you can use every time you observe a negative thought, or witness a story you know is not true.
By doing so, you program your mind to chose the thoughts you want to align to.
This isn’t about negating what is, it’s about acknowledging it, and coming back to what you DO want. Simples. So it should be.
Language is powerful, words can change your life. They have the capacity to tear a person down, or build them up.
Words illustrate how someone feels about them self, their beliefs in life, their fears, conditioning, patterns that play out, just to name a few.
Here are 3 examples from a sea of many;
1. TRY (in the context of a commitment to a task or goal)
I consider the word try, to be a swear word – actually that’s really just something I heard elsewhere, but it stuck. If someone says they will ‘try’ to do xyz, be sure that they are not 100% committed to the outcome.
There is either CAN or CANNOT – there is no try. Try is a cop out of a word that means you don’t have the integrity to say yes or no and own your commitment completely.
Notice WHY you might not want to commit to a solid CAN or CANNOT. Build your integrity by communicating any resistance you might have.
The word sorry, usually learnt through conditioning. Have you noticed how often you say sorry? Why do you say it, and do you really mean it.
It is way over used and used far to inappropriately.
Dig a little further and ask WHY you or others use it. The initial answer may be ‘I don’t know’, but dig behind that.
Often it can represent a fear we have for getting in the way or feeling like we aren’t enough.
Challenge yourself to not say it when you usually would. What comes up for you?
3. Think vs Feel
When listening to your response, or another’s response to a question or conversation. Note whether you say “I think, or I feel” as the starting sentence. When we say Think – it usually means our answer comes from the head with something we already know or think we know. When we say Feel – it usually means our answer has come from within our heart or body.
Depending on the context of the conversation – our response can denote where our answer has come from and the potential truth of it. Our bodies never lie. Our heads are pretty practiced at it.
Neither is right or wrong, just all lessons to enhance our listening skills and be open exploration.
For further tools to support exploration of your words and thoughts, read Transform Your Thoughts, Transform Your Life available here.
Last week, I had such an amazing, joyful time here in Mongan Village. The sun shone, I walked the dogs, I saw a client, I held a group discussion – it felt really really good. This week, it has rained constantly. No clients so far, dogs with cabin fever and my inner landscape feeling …
There hasn’t been much inspiration for blogging recently, I’ve been knee deep in emotional healing, loving my Inner Child, much to the disappointment of my inner ‘get things done’ self. Apparently now is a time of deep inner healing, as reflected to me by my healer friend.
There’s been resistance with the acceptance of this, I mean, I am in the perfect place to be healing, but seriously, how long does one have to heal for – can I get on with the show already? Am I right?
It feels as though this year has been relentless in the pursuit of healing. The whole of 2016! In numerology this year is a 9 year, a year of endings. 2+0+1+6=9. Representing the ending of a 8/9 year cycle, and I tell you what, these numbers aren’t lying. This last year feels like it has been dying a slow death, like the transition of seasons from fall to winter – but longer.
After spending 8.5 months in a Silent Retreat, 2.5 in Ubud – I feel like physically, I have not achieved one thing. Sure, there may be a few blog posts to show, pages and pages of scribbled journaling’s – most of which are ash by now. I have 2 suitcases filled with my belongings & have accumulated one beautiful gifted wooden Ganesha representative of destroying my obstacles. Sounds like a pretty clean simple year no?
Internally it looks like the Sahara desert, intuitively I feel endless rolling hills of cleared debris & destruction. You can’t see my inner landscape, I can’t prove to you how much inner work I’ve done. We cannot sit and compare notes and graphs about who’s inner work is going to have the biggest return on investment, because this shit can’t be seen. When times like this in life present, (and yes I say times like this, as this isn’t the first time I’ve experienced this), it is so easy to forget that life exists outside of the inner destruction that has occurred.
I forget that there IS a life of dreams and desires, of the world’s greatest riches. I forget that there are manifestations of unknown awaiting my rebirth into the world. I forget that there is a sea of possibility just begging me to grab a hold of it with both hands. I forget that I am a valued being on this planet and another voice for Mother Earth. I forget. I am lost in my inner Star Wars Movie – the battle of the dark side against the light.
This recent battle is just about over. One that has invited my inner teenager with all her wounds, aches and pains. I was gifted a beautiful encounter with a gorgeous Balinese Man who’s smile was enough to make my heart melt, and it pretty much did. It has been about one full year since anyone had looked at me, so to feel my butterflies dance in my tummy was a strange, but exciting feeling – I decided to explore it. Why not?
Edges were met & my fears emerged, I didn’t know whether to let the whole thing go and continue to protect my precious heart, or to open and expand despite these fears. A trip back to the Silent Retreat and a deep dig towards some inner courage saw me return to Ubud lighter and ready to explore.
My heart was opened again and I felt as vulnerable as a fresh teenager rich with new hormones. She was out in full force. The beauty of this relationship was a test of this vulnerable part of myself – would she seek fulfillment in another, or would I (adult Heidi) rise to the challenge and be there to catch her – to meet her needs.
Heart open, arms wide, I was there to catch her, there could be no other way, because he was not available, nor is it his job. His heart closed, encased behind walls of hurt & pain. She kicked & screamed and yelled at me for love, so show up for her did. Time spent laying on my bed, holding my heart, tears streaming, journaling & meditation to hold her tightly was all I could do from going crazy thinking about him.
An external force brought into my world to make me show up stronger than I ever have for myself. It’s been a good month of parenting myself, it has been wild & relentless. I am SO thankful to see who I am and understand how to care for me, to not throw myself at another in the vain ‘hope’ that he will give me what I needed to give myself.
The relationship has come to a close, and I am feeling a little more settled within my heart, aware of new lessons on the cusp. Trust & Intimacy… This inner work, really is akin to work – seriously! If there was a way to be paid for it, I would be onto the winning ticket.
Our relationships really are nothing but mirrors for us. Showing up to teach us the deepest parts of ourselves we have not yet met. It takes courage to engage in conscious relationships – that shit ain’t easy.
“the road can teach you how to love and let go,
it can be lonely, but it’s the only thing, that we’ve ever known…”
Wash It Away
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