I’ve had quite the challenging week this week…
– Confronted with my mortality
– I’ve fallen down in a puddle of tears
– My middle back is in a state of contraction
– I blew up at a call service operator this morning
– I’m on a 5 day self imposed cleanse which includes no coffee…
First up, I want to acknowledge how ‘first world’ my problems are in the grand scheme of life. They really do not seem like problems at all. However in the name of my spiritual growth and development, and in turn, the health of this planet, on a scaled down level where each individual’s challenges are significant, and contribute towards the whole, these are mine. In order to shine my light brightly in the world, these are my issues to overcome. There’s that paradox again,
Everything AND Nothing.
My problems are everything to me, but to the greater world and the worlds problems, mine are nothing.
So my post today, is about our ‘first world’ problems, on an individual level, as we all have them, AND they’re still really important for us to overcome & acknowledge on our path as human beings, seeking greater meaning in the world & what this life is all about.
Often we buckle down in our nests, and deal with ours on our own, or we don’t’ deal with them at all. We don’t acknowledge how we feel, by keeping ourselves busy with our life’s, our families, our children, our social calendar, our work, our hobbies, and so on and so forth.
But I’ve learnt, in order to really experience the true fruits of life, we also need to experience some of the seemingly ‘forbidden’ fruits. The rotten one’s lying on the ground that we perhaps don’t want to take a look at.
How does one even begin to acknowledge these fruits, when perhaps they haven’t done so their whole life? You may not even be aware of such things. I know I wasn’t!
It all began in my Life Coaching sessions with Vanessa Auditore. (you can find her work here).
She started asking me self reflective questions, based on what I was sharing.
I was defensive, and closed off, to say the least.
She reflected my words back. “so, do you think there’s nothing wrong with you?”
I don’t remember my response, but I’m sure it contained the energy of a huge STOP sign.
“Sure, I’m ok? Aren’t I?”
The first time we begin to internally reflect on ourselves, developing our consciousness, can be a scary thing. We’re confronted with those parts of ourselves that we’d kept hidden, for whatever reason we decided to hide them.
Its important to keep a gentle mind, when we first begin to explore ourselves, as therein lies parts of ourselves we may not like when we first meet them.
I remember having a really great class during my studies, where we got to meet these parts of ourselves, during meditation. Instead of jumping in with both feet, and claiming them all, only to feel massively confronted & scared, we instead created a character for each.
For example, I’d shut down from allowing myself to feel angry throughout my childhood. Anger is a neccassary emotion we all need to embody. For me, to jump head first, and feel anger after a lifetime of not, was far to hard, to confronting. So, the characteristics of my anger; wild, loud, red, uncontrolled, explosive, energetic, rgggggghhhh, began to form a character. I imagined a small girl, much like the one on Monsters Inc, and I gave her a name. Dotti.
Dotti became this character I could associate with, as I was developing my connection with anger.
Instead of ME being angry, which was uncomfortable, I could say Dotti feels angry, which is a lot more comfortable as a transition, a stepping stone.
You can go into creative exploration with this. Begin to draw your character, or write about him/her – put them into a story. What happens, is you create a relationship.
As time draws on, and your relationship deepens, your comfortability factor with your character increases. You no longer need to call them Dotti, or xyz… they eventually become one with you. You can begin to identify with the emotion. In my case, anger.
You begin to FEEL anger, as any other emotion that you can expect to feel being human. You begin to allow yourself permission to feel this emotion, you are opening up the channels of energy for this to ebb & flow like anything else in life. Emotions come and go like the tides of the ocean. If we allow ourselves to feel it, it will pass as quickly as it rose. If we do not. That energy remains trapped within our bodies & minds, and does not pass. It builds and builds creating blockages and stagnation, eventually dis-ease and potentially disease.
Writing about this technique just now, coupled with with my morning meditation, guides me to share, and explain, what style of coaching I practice;
There are SO many Coaches out in the world now. It’s wonderful to see, as there is also, equal, if not more, clients ready & available. A massive shift is taking place in the world right now. That said, the term Coach is also so loosely used, that anybody can call themselves one.
I studied a 2 year Part Time Diploma at Nature Care College, in Sydney, Australia. It took me 4 years to complete, because of the profound life changes I went through whilst going through it.
This course, is not your advice based method, head centered and head strong.
It is HEART & SPIRIT aligned, far from Ego.
It is far from what you think you want to work on. Transformational Coaching encompasses all parts of being – body, mind & soul. It is an opportunity for your soul to come through you & work with you, for your greater good in this world.
You may have an agenda, ie – Work, Relationship, Money, Study etc.. But when you choose to show up to Transformational Coaching, you are committing to 100% transformation, in that area you intend to work on, and your LIFE.
– What you think bout money, will change completely!
– What you think about attracting an ideal relationship into your world, will change beyond your current perception, and again, I’m not just talking mind here.
How you think, feel & believe will ALL change! To say it again – Body, Mind & Spirit – remember – we are not 1 dimensional. If you change a thought, that thought then needs to ripple through your entire being, in order to integrate that new concept before it can begin to attract xyz into your world.
“A MIND change is not change without transformation and integration baby”!
The tools are marvelous, and FUN! Life is FUN! It’s not about knuckling down and doing the hard stuff all the time. There is a dance, a surrender at play in life & during the coaching relationship.
I LOVE the methods that I have studied, learnt, and personally applied in my life. If I could shout them from the rooftops, I would, and I am through my blogging!
I am opening up 2 new FREE, rippling opportunities, within the next few weeks to work with me.